- 08 Nov 2021, 15:31
#21151
“Halal dating” or “halal courtship” mean something different to everyone. Varying viewpoints include some distinctions that seem negligible but can make all the difference.
Salma, a 24 yrs old, has been married for nearly a year. She offered her newly-acquired wisdom concerning the halal courting process. Salma categorizes halal courtship (dating) as talking to and getting to know someone with the intention of potentially getting married.
Salma attests that the necessity of these serious dialogues is something she likes about the process of halal courtship. She explains: “You can find out answers to some of the most important questions quickly to see if values and visions of marriage and life line up. If they don’t, it’s easy to respectfully end discussions before it proceeds further, emotional attachments taking hold.”
So What Is Halal Dating ??
Dating for Muslims in the 21st century is important yet conflicting. Generally, Muslims are told not to meet their spouse before marriage and are condemned from questioning this mentality. In truth, Islam teaches us love is kind, nourishing and pure.
Halal meeting
Islamic scholars explain the rules towards halal ‘meetings’ as they call it.
1. What do you want?
The first step towards achieving the halal way is understanding what you want. Halal dating will require looking for a long-term spouse, meaning you and your partner will have restrictions and limitations but will ultimately be rewarded.
2. Tell your parents.
Telling your parents and family about your intentions is beneficial. Be open to notifying them about who the person is and considering their opinion.
3. The dates should be chaperoned or in a public setting.
The essence of halal dating is to protect both parties and give you the chance to fall head over heels with your future spouse’s purity, personality, and mindset. Scholars suggest meetings should include a chaperone or be set in a public where temptations are minimal.
4. Have a third person on online chats.
A third person can be dormant and does not have to be involved in the communication. The rule is suggested to minimize impulses and preserve the relationship’s purity.
Salma, a 24 yrs old, has been married for nearly a year. She offered her newly-acquired wisdom concerning the halal courting process. Salma categorizes halal courtship (dating) as talking to and getting to know someone with the intention of potentially getting married.
Salma attests that the necessity of these serious dialogues is something she likes about the process of halal courtship. She explains: “You can find out answers to some of the most important questions quickly to see if values and visions of marriage and life line up. If they don’t, it’s easy to respectfully end discussions before it proceeds further, emotional attachments taking hold.”
So What Is Halal Dating ??
Dating for Muslims in the 21st century is important yet conflicting. Generally, Muslims are told not to meet their spouse before marriage and are condemned from questioning this mentality. In truth, Islam teaches us love is kind, nourishing and pure.
Halal meeting
Islamic scholars explain the rules towards halal ‘meetings’ as they call it.
1. What do you want?
The first step towards achieving the halal way is understanding what you want. Halal dating will require looking for a long-term spouse, meaning you and your partner will have restrictions and limitations but will ultimately be rewarded.
2. Tell your parents.
Telling your parents and family about your intentions is beneficial. Be open to notifying them about who the person is and considering their opinion.
3. The dates should be chaperoned or in a public setting.
The essence of halal dating is to protect both parties and give you the chance to fall head over heels with your future spouse’s purity, personality, and mindset. Scholars suggest meetings should include a chaperone or be set in a public where temptations are minimal.
4. Have a third person on online chats.
A third person can be dormant and does not have to be involved in the communication. The rule is suggested to minimize impulses and preserve the relationship’s purity.
- By Fatema.Khimji