- 10 Nov 2021, 16:15
#21152
“Bad is Bad, even if everyone is doing it. Good is Good, even if no one is doing it”
Peer pressure is one thing that all teens have in common. You can't escape it. It is everywhere. Whether it is pressure to conform to a group norm or pressure to act, peer pressure is something everybody has to deal with at some time in his or her life.
One big mistake that we make when we are under such pressure is that we humor them. When we humor them or tolerate the bullying and go along with the pestering, the idea we give across is that we are too weak to fight off and stand our ground. Unless we prove otherwise, and unless we try, our own mind believes the same.
So How Can We Overcome Peer Pressure ??
Communication:
One of the most important defenses against such kind of influence is to communicate. Communication with parents, teachers and even counselors though very difficult in the teenage years, is all the more crucial to solve such issues.
Choosing the right friends:
Keep few good friends instead of having a big bunch of friends who do not match your identity. If you’re constantly questioning yourself and feel unappreciated in a group, you need to take a minute and think carefully. Maintain some distance and make it clear that you have to.
Knowledge of the deen:
Once we know the commands and values imbibed by our pure deen, it creates a self-confident and sure personality, and differentiating between the right and the wrong becomes easy.
Say no!
If the problem still persists, you have to take the step and say no. Step away from such a group if you must.
Let me know if you have any more tips and let us be careful while choosing the right group of friends. Every human being in this world has the ability to make his/her own decisions, and this is known as free will. Stand up for what you truly believe, and let your Islamic faith shine right through you every day of your life.
Peer pressure is one thing that all teens have in common. You can't escape it. It is everywhere. Whether it is pressure to conform to a group norm or pressure to act, peer pressure is something everybody has to deal with at some time in his or her life.
One big mistake that we make when we are under such pressure is that we humor them. When we humor them or tolerate the bullying and go along with the pestering, the idea we give across is that we are too weak to fight off and stand our ground. Unless we prove otherwise, and unless we try, our own mind believes the same.
So How Can We Overcome Peer Pressure ??
Communication:
One of the most important defenses against such kind of influence is to communicate. Communication with parents, teachers and even counselors though very difficult in the teenage years, is all the more crucial to solve such issues.
Choosing the right friends:
Keep few good friends instead of having a big bunch of friends who do not match your identity. If you’re constantly questioning yourself and feel unappreciated in a group, you need to take a minute and think carefully. Maintain some distance and make it clear that you have to.
Knowledge of the deen:
Once we know the commands and values imbibed by our pure deen, it creates a self-confident and sure personality, and differentiating between the right and the wrong becomes easy.
Say no!
If the problem still persists, you have to take the step and say no. Step away from such a group if you must.
Let me know if you have any more tips and let us be careful while choosing the right group of friends. Every human being in this world has the ability to make his/her own decisions, and this is known as free will. Stand up for what you truly believe, and let your Islamic faith shine right through you every day of your life.
- By Fatema.Khimji